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In Bob Dylan, Books, K-12 Education, Paul McCartney and Wings, School bullying, The Youngbloods on March 13, 2011 at 9:01 AM

#bullDogNATION’s Sunday BULLY Pulpit

Hello! And to #bullDogNATION’s Sunday BULLY Pulpit where each week we gather together fur the Gospel and the Gossip according to… Me! Or you.

This week: The gospel–

Conscience:a personal sense of the moral content of one’s own conduct, intentions, or character with regard to a feeling of obligation to do right or be good. Conscience, usually informed by acculturation and instruction, is generally understood to give intuitively authoritative judgments regarding the moral quality of single actions.”

Encyclopedia Britannica, 2008. Encyclopedia Britannica Online

Once upon a time good conscience was a character component PARENTS, some sort of faith, and community instilled. Children learned from the example of family and community leaders– their teachers, their preachers, business leaders and their neighbors.
Train up a boy according to the way for him; even when he grows old he will not turn aside from it.”Probverbs 22:6
So it’s disturbing to me how the media is making it appear as though all of a sudden there’s this prolific increase of lack of good judgement and good conscience. The truth is, this is a social phenomena that has been going on for quite a long time. Without a conscience, there can be no empathy. Conscience is the little voice behind you saying:  Do you really wanna do.., say.., wear…  that? Conscience is:
“The awareness of a moral or ethical aspect to one’s conduct together with the urge to prefer right over wrong.- The American Heritage® Stedman’s Medical Dictionary
I don’t believe more Internet cyber-etiquette classes are gonna cut it. Do you?
Linda McCartney very famously and poignantly expressed it this way:
“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can break my heart.”
That, literally, is what’s at the heart of this matter. People not stopping to consider anyone else’s feelings anymore, probably because their own are so dulled down.
“…how can YOU speak good things, when YOU are wicked? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.”– Matt 12: 34 & 35
Words are powerful. They are double-edged swords. They have the capacity to heal or humiliate. Help or harm. Build up or tear down. Words can kill! They kill the spirit. People who think it’s fun or funny to kill another person’s spirit are, in my opinion, no better than MURDERERS!

Some People think it makes them feel and appear superior when they can destroy the spirit of another Person. Like dying, there are sooo many ways to hurt another Person. The cumulative effect of all of this seemingly innocuous, funny ha-ha bullying is that it slowly, insidiously, bit by tiny bit, transforms potential friends and talented individuals into frightened, uncertain, hopeless victims.

Victimization leads to frustration. Frustration leads to anger. Anger devolves into resignation. Resignation leads to self-loathing and creates The 21st Century Zombie. A Person who looks perfectly normal, going through the motions of living on the outside. Spiritually, emotionally dead on the inside.

It’s a wretched existence. First of all, the psychological and emotional energy it takes  just to damp down all that pain, reign it all in– persevere and endure, often with no end in sight every day. It. Is. EXHAUSTING!Job only had to endure his torment three years. So did Jesus Christ.

Because you’re the victim, you have to do all the work. No one must ever know you’re angry, annoyed, disappointed, hurt, scared– fighting the good fight all by yourself in your head and in your heart.

Second, if you fail to understand how victimization works–  Poof! All of a sudden you’re not only a problem, you’re the one with the problem. You’re the difficult person, the malcontent, the complainer, the irritating source of all the friction. You don’t know how to “go with the flow.” You’re INFLEXIBLE! Everybody has bad stuff happen to them. You need to develop a “thick skin.” You have only yourself to blame. You should stand up for yourself!

“How does it feel to be a problem?”– W.E.B. DuBois, The Souls of Black Folk

These young people could tell you: Tyler Clementi. Megan Meier. Eric Mohat. Hope Witsell. Just a few of the former members of the sad and tragic fratority called the walking wounded. The living dead. Then there are the countless unpublished victims who dull their pain with alcohol or drugs or sexual promiscuity or non-suicidal self-injury behaviors (NSSIB) such as cutting or, acting out rages.

“How does it feel to be a problem?”

free music How does it feel
How does it feel
To be on your own
With no direction home
Like a complete unknown
Like a rolling stone?– Bob Dylan

There are so many more stories like theirs in the naked city; the neat and tidy suburbs.  Not only are children, teens and young adults bullied in schools and on college campuses all across America, but adults– Yes, ADULTS are bullied in the workplace or in their neighborhoods as well. People with children, and car notes, and student loans, and mortgages, and credit cards to repay are forced to quit their jobs (another form of suicide) to escape the relentless torment!

It’s neither fun nor funny to deliberately or maliciously make another human being feel like a victim; to kill their spirit.  When someone physically assaults you or steals your property, or you lose a limb as a result of medical incompetence or malpractice, the law’s the remedy for you.  But when someone hurts, or assaults, or maims, or mercilessly bludgeons your feelings, where’s the remedy for you?

“Ouch! That hurt my feelings! Quick! Call the police!?”

Society says you just need to suck it up, act like an adult, shake it off, grow up, be a man, turn the other cheek, give it to God. But when Mean People, their lies and their hateful machinations interfere with your ability to sustain or even have quality of life itself or disrupts your pursuit of happiness–  it’s a tad harder to just shake off.

And the effort. It takes soo much out of you, requires soo much energy.  It’s soo exhausting.

Nowadays not even your home is a safe haven or shelter from the storms outside or a respite to recharge and gain your bearings to endure another day. There’s a note posted on your door. A message on your answering machine. An email in your inbox. A text on your mobile phone. A video on Youtube.

Now they can even follow you home.

You want a friend you- can rely on
One who will never fade away
And if you’re searching for an answer
Stick around. I say  It’s coming up, it’s coming up
Its coming up like a flower
Its coming up. Yeah– Paul McCartney and Wings

No rest for the weary.

What needs to be talked about more, everywhere, is being of good character– valuing a good conscience. Having a good FICA score is not an indicator of good character! All that demonstrates is that you can pay your bills. And yet, that’s all we publicly associate character with– a record of bill paying. No wonder no one really cares or has any regard for how anybody feels any more.

True happiness and joy rests in having a good conscience. You get a good conscience by having goodwill towards everyone every day and all the time. It’s not just how well you treat people, it’s how well you make them feel. A lot of the time, being good to one another requires no money at all.
When we can get back to being a society who cares more about the emotional health and well being of people and less about their credit scores, there may be hope for less of these true and tragic stories of People who are just plain mean to other People.
Goodwill Energies I direct
Toward Each and Every one of you
Each and every day!

Right now!

Right now!

“And there came to be evening and there came to be morning…”

That’s life today!Trupanion Pet Insurance LogoGot somethin’ to say? Email your contribution to The Sunday Bully Pulpit: that1ebd at gmail

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